(This was adapted from my March 11, 2012 Blog post)
March 13, 2012
In the past week, Rush Limbaugh apologized publicly to a Catholic university law student for calling her a “slut.” Such a public verbal lashing by a very popular talk radio personality of a private citizen was of course inappropriate, and Limbaugh was right to apologize. However, given that Sandra Fluke is not married, and says she needs $3,000 worth of birth control per year, then one could conclude that such a term could apply to her. But given Fluke’s alleged ties to the White House, and the fact that her boyfriend is from a wealthy family (whose father apparently made many political contributions to Democrats in recent years), she could very easily have gotten her boyfriend to pay for the birth control if she was in financial need, rather than trying to force the Catholic Church to go against its moral principles to fund her sex life.
Now, speaking of apologies, this past week one of our goofy local talk radio hosts, Michael Graham, was discussing yet another annoying issue that adds more to the depressing reality that our future generations of Americans will be even more screwed up than previous ones. Graham heard from a teacher who said that her boss says that they “ARE NOT ALLOWED TO TELL CHILDREN TO SAY THEY ARE SORRY TO OTHER CHILDREN when the child slaps, hits, kicks, pinches or generally acts like an ass to the other kids.
“(The boss) said it would ‘lower their self-esteem’ to be told that they have done something wrong…”
Hmmm. If a child hits another child, or pushes the other one over, or takes a toy away from the other one, should I wait until the aggressor feels sorrow for committing such aggressions and then have him apologize? Well, in my opinion, making the aggressive child apologize — whether sincere or not — should coincide with teaching some kind of empathy, i.e. getting him to try to see things from the other child’s point of view. For example, if little Jimmy pushes little Martha over on the playground, perhaps ask little Jimmy, “Would you like it if a bigger kid pushed you over?” Chances are, he probably can imagine such a scenario and he probably wouldn’t like it, and maybe that could get him to understand, in some way, that from little Martha’s point of view, that would be an undesirable situation if someone else did it to him. And perhaps then his apology would be sincere.
However, according to this article in Parents Magazine, “Apologies are meaningless unless you change the offending behavior.” I think that kids need to learn from older generations the importance of being accountable for your actions. Admit that you made a mistake, and correct your errors. If the mistake was especially egregious and/or aggressive against others, some form of punishment should be in order.
Now, here is what I was referring to when noting the depressing reality of our future generations. Some of our wacky school teachers, administrators, psychologists and other commentators have been saying that, if you make a kid accountable for his actions, such as administering some form of punishment for bad behavior, that will cause him to have a “lower self-esteem.” As Graham mocked some of these people on his show, such accountability or punishments “will make them feel bad.” Those nutsos are actually reinforcing the children’s bad behaviors now by not punishing them, out of concern that that will make the kids feel bad. Well, YES! We WANT people to feel bad for hurting others, for being aggressive toward others, for stealing from others, for trespassing onto others property, for violating boundaries, etc.
Personally, I want our society and our government to make Presidents feel bad for starting wars of aggression against other countries, and for treasonously targeting innocent civilians with detention or assassination without providing evidence against the accused.
So, unfortunately, children aren’t being made to feel bad when they hurt others. But they are being made to feel bad if they win a game in sports, so the “adults” are removing scoring altogether. “We don’t want them to feel bad if they lose the game.” And the “adults” now, the “teachers,” are reluctant to give little Jimmy and Martha a low grade on their test if they did poorly on their test. “We give everybody an A because we don’t want them to feel bad.” So you can see that these morons are graduating kids from high school who can’t read and they can’t write and do math. No wonder America has gone in its world ranking from #1 in education to what, #25?
Adults seem to now be reluctant to punish kids for the kids’ aggressive behavior against others, but the kids are given poisonous pharmaceutical drugs to suppress their normal, harmless “energetic” behaviors, misdiagnosed and falsely labeled as “hyperactivity.” The parents and teachers have become so self-absorbed in their texting and emails, and their own personal lives now. Many of these adults now have become total control freaks (themselves taking psychopharmaceuticals) in their needing to keep the kids medicated, obedient and silenced. With so many kids being drugged up by the
prison school system, could some of the aggressive behaviors be possible side-effects of some of these drugs?
Meanwhile, many “liberal” parents actually encourage their kids and teens to become sexually active at an early age, out of concern that otherwise the kids and teens might be “repressed” later in life. Such adults do not seem to want to acknowledge that people at such a young age are not emotionally ready for sexual relations, so what these “liberal” adults are doing is abandoning the teaching of the importance of boundaries that kids need to learn in order to understand the values of respecting others’ persons and personal boundaries.
I see the lack of distinguishing boundaries in earlier childhood years, and the implied reinforcement of aggressive behavior as connected with the aforementioned “liberal” sexual teaching by adults. But this is truly an upside down, backwards world, in which these wacky adults seem to be implicitly reinforcing children’s aggressive behaviors toward the other kids, while at the same time the kids are being punished for merely hugging their classmates. Just showing affection between friends, or even handshakes, are being punished now, in the name of “zero tolerance,” as though hugging your friend is committing a “sexual assault”! Only clueless imbeciles would institute such inane policies.
Encouraging kids to hug or show non-sexual affection toward others is a good thing. But with “liberal” parents who violate a child or teen’s boundaries in the parents’ attempts to prevent the child from becoming “repressed” later in life, when you start involving the youngsters’ private, more intimately personal sexual matters, and their sexual private parts in the context of relations with their peers, such “teaching” will be of a more violating and invasive nature, rather than the “freeing” nature that these “liberal” adults think it is. The late psychologist Alice Miller addressed some of those issues in her book, The Drama of the Gifted Child.
And only in a sick society is all this happening. Perhaps Sandra Fluke is promiscuous in her adulthood because she, too, was encouraged to become sexual at too young an age, who knows. But now, she seems to want to use aggression to get her birth control to take care of her selfish, personal sexual desires: She wants to use the armed power of government to force the Catholic Church to go against its own moral principles and fund her promiscuous lifestyle. This kind of aggressive attitude — of using the armed power of government to force others to bend to your ways and live in a way that’s according to your particular lifestyle, whether it be the Left’s forced acceptance of sexual promiscuity or whether it be Rick Santorum’s wanting to use armed power of government to repress and punish individual private consensual behaviors — is widespread now in a very fascist America.
Speaking of the Catholic Church and holding people accountable for their actions, I am also reminded of the Boston Catholic priest child-sexual abuse scandal that was a big news story starting about 10 years ago. It wasn’t just in Boston. Back then, it was disclosed that then-Cardinal Bernard Law knew of priests alleged to be molesting little boys, but Law did not try to bring the abusers to justice. He merely moved accused abusive priests from one district to another, so they could begin molesting children in their new locations. Bernard Law should have done the moral thing by having the accused priests brought to justice. He must have known that it is a crime to molest and/or rape a little child, or another adult for that matter. Shame on Bernard Law, who was also relocated himself, over to the Vatican. The message that the Church hierarchy gave to its parishioners and to the general public — and to children — was that it is okay for a priest or other adult to physically, sexually violate a child and get away with it, it is okay for someone in a position of authority and control or someone who is bigger to violate the persons of those who are smaller or more vulnerable and weaker and can’t fight back.
We have seen these messages of abuse of power and crimes of those in control time and again within the context of the relationship between governments and the people over whom they rule. In America, which has been in decline for some time, the people have used their democracy to willingly give more and more power to their rulers, to the point that we now live in a police state. Many people approve of the invasive policies that give some bureaucrats and armed thugs with badges the power to act criminally against innocent civilians. I have written quite a lot about how the people have to stop being obedient serfs and protect themselves from treasonous government bureaucrats. But now we must trust the likes of Newt Gingrich or Barack Obama to decide who is guilty or innocent, rather than a jury of our peers. It’s sick.
And many of today’s cops now are nothing but brutes and neanderthals, and Nazis who demand submission and obedience from innocent people who are minding their own business. Many crimes are being committed by government police on a daily basis, and they get away with it with impunity. No one — especially in government — seems to be held accountable for one’s illicit, illegal, violent actions. No wonder we are seeing idiots in schools who don’t want to punish kids for aggressive behaviors against their peers. This is one big reason why I believe our society and our culture are toast.
And speaking of apologizing, recently Barack Obama apologized to Afghanistan for the U.S. soldiers who burned Korans. But has he or George W. Bush apologized for starting wars of aggression against two countries — Iraq and Afghanistan — that did not attack or threaten us? Did they apologize to the family members of the hundreds of thousands of innocent civilians who were murdered in Iraq for no good reason? Did Bush apologize to the families of the thousands of sacrificed U.S. soldiers, who were killed in Iraq in a war of aggression started by George W. Bush for no good reason, based on lies and for political reasons?
High U.S. government officials were not held accountable and brought to justice for the deaths and destruction that their wars have wrought overseas. The message to our younger generations is this: It’s okay to start wars of aggression, and get away with those war crimes.
But we don’t want George W. Bush to feel bad, because we want to be a sensitive society. We must honor Bush for good intentions (if he actually had them, which has been highly suspect, although gullible sheeple believe he did).
The past several decades of U.S. government and military aggression and hegemony overseas have shown that Americans have lost their sense of moral values and understanding of boundaries. Ironically, it has been the “conservatives” who scream the loudest about “moral values,” “property rights,” “borders” and “national sovereignty,” yet they are the ones who have most vocally supported our government’s trespassing on foreign territories, shredding of the sovereignty of other peoples and trashing of their lives, liberty and property (as our government now trashes our lives, liberty and property!).
If what we have seen these past 10 years with the hysterical false flag “War on Terror” to justify the expansion of government and further intrusiveness and outright crimes by bureaucrats, not a “War on Terror” but a war on freedom, property and moral values, with those getting away with their crimes with such in-your-face impunity, then I dread what the future holds for us, given today’s education imbeciles stifling any bit of innate common sense and self-worth of our youngsters, our future leaders.